要自私。
看看树，没有一棵树想要为另一棵树牺牲自己，因此，它们同等翠绿。如果它们开始牺牲，将没有一棵树是绿的，没有一棵树能开出花朵。看看星辰，它们非常自私——它们为自己发光，它们不会牺牲。否则，整个存在将会变得丑陋黑暗。自私是自然的。我所教导的自私就是道——你的天性。倾听它，遵循它。你的天性会对你说，“要快乐。”
如果子贡问的是老子，他会说，“大好事，学累了？太好了。放下所有的思考，现在静心。想休息？现在就可以。”老子不会说，“你会的。”未来没有意义，它是一个把戏——一个用来安慰你的把戏，尽管现在你没有，但你会有的。你可以希望，透过希望毒化了你的整个存在。
教士和政客想让你成为殉道者，殉道者并不是好人，因为他们非常愤怒。他们错过了自己的生命，他们注定会愤怒——那是自然的。你强迫他们摧毁了自己的生命，你说服他们，你收买他们摧毁自己的生命——他们怎么能快乐？他们怎么能原谅你？不可能。为自己活就是为所有人活，但那不是牺牲。为自己活，真正地自私——那就是自然的方式。你照顾你的快乐，你的休息，你的生命，你会非常惊讶，当你是快乐的，你也帮助别人变得快乐，因为你会渐渐明白，如果别人快乐，你会更快乐。快乐只能存在于欢乐的海洋，它无法独自存在。
记住这个逻辑，自私的深刻逻辑。快乐无法像个孤岛一样存在，不。如果你周围每个人都不快乐，你将很难快乐——基本不可能，因为这个不快乐的海洋会不断地把你拍在沙滩上。你身边所有的痛苦都会影响到你，它会穿透你的存在。如果一个快乐的人渐渐地了解这个基本的、基础的法则，那就是“如果我想要快乐，最好是让身边所有人都快乐！”但他不会为别人服务，记住。他不会牺牲，他只是自私。他想微笑，也会帮助你微笑，因为一个笑容无法存在，那看起来有点荒唐。只要想想：你坐在一个满是人的房间里，只有一个人笑，其他人都很严肃，那看起来有点尴尬，他会觉得内疚：别人都没笑，我为啥要笑？弄错了，下次要小心，三思而后行。
不，当你们所有人都笑，那么笑就很容易，整体创造出笑的可能性。我们依赖整体，我们是整体的一部分。
因为自己的快乐，你为他人创造了一个快乐的可能性。这是真正的服务——根本不是牺牲，你没有变成一个殉道者。母亲是快乐的，那就是为什么她能爱小孩。她如此快乐，她想与小孩分享她的快乐。她永远不会怨恨，事实上，她会感恩小孩，因为小孩她拥有很多美妙的时刻。她会一直感激小孩。“因为你来到我这里，因为你选择我做你的母亲，你选择进入我的子宫让我如此快乐，你给了我如此美妙的时刻，没有你是不可能的，我很感激你。”小孩也会感恩这个感激他的母亲，他永远不会反对母亲——那很难。而通常情况下，我从没遇到过一个不反对母亲或父亲的人，非常少。
葛吉夫常对他的弟子说，“除非你原谅了你的父母，否则你无法成长。”你会说，“荒谬！他说什么？除非你原谅……”他把它写在门上：“除非你原谅了你的父母，否则不要进来。”但没有人能原谅他们的父母，因为父母牺牲的太多了。
父亲和母亲因为小孩如此痛苦，他们一直在说他们牺牲了多少。没有一个母亲说，“你做我的小孩给我带来多少喜悦。”没有一个父亲说，“你的到来，给我们带来了光和爱。”那么小孩将不止是原谅，他们就有能力去爱，有能力感恩。
一旦道被了解，心理分析的整个生意都会分崩离析，因为它依赖于一个事实而存在，那就是你无法原谅你的父母。躺在心理分析的长椅上，你在做什么？不过就是诉说对母亲和父亲的愤怒。原始疗愈能做什么？如果道被了解，Janov将失去意义。你在原始疗愈里踢打尖叫是在干什么？你在打谁？你的母亲和父亲。你在对谁尖叫？你的母亲和父亲。
如果你听一个心理分析来访者说话，有90%都是在讲他的母亲。“母亲”就是问题，是的，但原因是政客和教士毒害了人的思想。他们一直在说，“你会的，往前看，未来你会快乐。”
现在才是你全部的拥有，聪明地使用它，别被任何人骗了。
Be selfish.
Just look at the trees. No tree is trying to sacrifice for another tree; hence they are green. If they start sacrificing, no tree will be green and no tree will ever flower. Look at the stars. They are very selfish–they shine for themselves; they don’t sacrifice. Otherwise, the whole existence would become ugly and dark. Selfishness is natural. And the self that I am teaching is what Tao is–your nature. Listen to it, follow it. Your nature is saying to you, “Be happy.”
If this Tzu Kung had asked Lao Tzu, he would have said, “Great congratulations. You are tired of study? Very good. So drop all thinking, now meditate. You want rest? It is possible right now.” Lao Tzu would not say, “You shall.” Future is meaningless, it is a trick–a trick to console you, that though you don’t have right now, you shall. You can hope, and through hope you can poison your whole being.
The priest and the politician want you to become martyrs, and martyrs are not good people because they are very angry people. They have missed their life, they are bound to be angry–it is natural. You have forced them to destroy their life, you have persuaded them, you have bribed them to destroy their life–how can they be happy? How can they ever be able to forgive you? Impossible. Live for yourself and you will live for everybody else, but it is not a sacrifice. Live for yourself. Be really authentically selfish–that is the way of nature. You take care of your happiness, your rest, your life and you will be simply surprised that when you are happy you help others to be happy because you understand by and by that if others are happy you will be more happy. Happiness can exist only in an ocean of happiness. It cannot exist alone.
Remember the logic,the deep logic of selfishness.Happiness cannot exist like an island, no. If everybody were unhappy around you, then it would be very difficult for you to be happy–almost impossible, because this ocean of unhappiness all around would go on crashing on your shores. The misery all around you would affect you; it would penetrate your being. So a happy person by and by comes to understand the basic, the fundamental law, that “If I want to be happy, it is good to make people happy around me!”But he is not serving others, remember. He is not sacrificing. He is simply selfish. He wants to smile, he helps you to smile too, because a single smile cannot exist; it will look very absurd. Just think: you are sitting in a room full of people, only one person smiles and all the rest are serious. He will look a little embarrassed, he will start feeling guilty: Why did he smile when nobody else is smiling? Something has gone wrong. He should be more careful next time; he will think twice.
No, when you all laugh then it is very simple to laugh; the whole creates the possibility of laughter. We depend on the whole, we are part of the whole.
By being happy you create a possibility for others to be happy. And this is real service–this is not sacrifice at all; you are not becoming a martyr. The mother is happy, that’s why she loves the child. She is so happy that she wants to share her happiness with the child. She will never have any grudge. In fact, she will feel grateful to the child that because of the child she had many beautiful moments. She will always feel grateful to the child. “Because you came to me, because you chose me to be your mother, you chose my womb, you have made me so happy, you have given me such beautiful moments which would not have been possible without you. I am grateful.”And the child will feel grateful to such a mother who is grateful to him, and he will never be against the mother–it will be very difficult. Ordinarily, I never come across a person who is not against the mother or against the father. It is very rare.
Gurdjieff used to say to his disciples, “Unless you have forgien your fathers and mothers, you cannot grow.” You will say, “What nonsense! What is he saying? Unless you forgive…” He had it written on his door: “Unless you forgive your fathers and mothers, don’t enter here.” But nobody has been able to forgive their father and mother because the father and mother have sacrificed too much.
The father and mother have been so miserable because of the children. And they go on saying how much they have suffered. No mother says,“How much I have enjoyed your being my child.”No father says,“By coming to our house you have brought light to us,love to us.”Then the children would be able not only to forgive,they would be able to love, they would be able to be grateful.
Once Tao is understood, the whole business of psychoanalysis will disappear, because the whole business of psychoanalysis depends on the fact that you cannot forgive your mother and your father. Lying on the couch of a psychoanalyst, what do you do?You just rage against your mother and your father. What do you do in primal therapy? Janov will be meaningless if Tao is understood. What do you do when you kick and scream in primal therapy? Whom are you kicking? Your mother and father. Whom ate you screaming at? Your mother and your father.
If you listen to a patient on the psychiatrist’s couch, all that he talks about is ninety percent concerned with his mother. “Mother” seems to be the problem. It is, but the reason is that the politician and the priest have contaminated the mind of humanity.They always say,” You shall.Look forward.You will be happy in the future.”
Only the present moment is all that you have. Use it intelligently, don’t be deceived by anybody.
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